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Being a good friend to someone with Borderline Personality Disorder (BPD) is not always easy. There may be times when your friend feels totally hopeless or out of control, and when those times come you may feel helpless. Here are some general principles you can follow to be a good friend to someone with BPD:

Validate Your Borderline Friend’s Experiences

The most important thing you can do to help a friend with BPD is to take some time to just listen and validate. You may not necessarily agree with his evaluation of a situation, or feel that the intensity of their feelings is justified by the situation.

Other people with BPD did not grow up in a poor emotional environment. But because of the nature of the disorder, they have grown accustomed to people telling them that they are overreacting. Read More

Having someone who suffers from Borderline Personality Disorder (BPD) is really hard, especially the one that you love. it is important that you are aware and accept that that the person you love suffers from a Borderline Personality Disorder (BPD). This relationship may become conflictual because a person with BPD struggles with intimacy and trust issues, and feels like she cannot rely on anyone.

Therefore, she may demand certain things one minute, yet still feel that you may never meet her expectations, and withdraw further from the relationship.

A Famous writer, Mahari, writes about the importance of developing boundaries. It is important you keep your own identity and interests and that you always take care of yourself first.

This often happens with personality disorders, because we want them to recover, so we try to help them by dictating what they should do. Read More