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Being a good friend to someone with Borderline Personality Disorder (BPD) is not always easy. There may be times when your friend feels totally hopeless or out of control, and when those times come you may feel helpless. Here are some general principles you can follow to be a good friend to someone with BPD:

Validate Your Borderline Friend’s Experiences

The most important thing you can do to help a friend with BPD is to take some time to just listen and validate. You may not necessarily agree with his evaluation of a situation, or feel that the intensity of their feelings is justified by the situation.

Other people with BPD did not grow up in a poor emotional environment. But because of the nature of the disorder, they have grown accustomed to people telling them that they are overreacting. Read More

There may be times when your friend feels totally hopeless or out of control, and when those times come you may feel helpless. Here are some general principles you can follow to be a good friend to someone with BPD:

The most important thing you can do to help a friend with BPD is to take some time to just listen and validate his/her feeling. You can still let him know that you understand how he’s feeling and how difficult that must be.

Receiving validation from another person can provide tremendous relief to someone with BPD. Other people with BPD did not grow up in a poor emotional environment. But because of the nature of the disorder, they have grown accustomed to people telling them that they are overreacting.

If you have a friend with BPD, it is critically important to educate yourself about the disorder. Friendships with people with BPD can be rocky, and you need to know what to expect. Read More